Wow, summer went by fast! Here in the San Ramon Valley, today is the first day of school. I know it can be hard for parents and students alike to make the transition from summer to new school semester, so in the light of a brand new school year, I wanted to give parents some supportive tips to help with the adjustment to the new school year.
1. Lead the way in establishing consistent routines. Kids and teens function best when their environment is consistent; this consistency translates into security and comfort. Be lovingly firm in setting the school routine. Start implementing a new school schedule/routine earlier rather than later. Typically the workload can start off lighter and then get heavier over the next few weeks. It is important that students get into the daily routine of homework, going to bed at a reasonable time ect. earlier rather than later, so by the time the heavier workload hits, they will be adjusted and be set up to better handle it.
2. Be intentional about channeling patience and understanding as your child(ren) adjust to the change in routine. As I mentioned above, kids and teens thrive off of consistency, which can make it difficult when routines change. This means your child or teen may exhibit some more challenging behavior. Think of it as them exhibiting "growing pains" in getting readjusted to a more challenging and demanding school schedule rather than them trying to defy or rebel against you.
3. Consider your child's input on their struggles and what can help set them up for success this school year. Asking your older child/teen's thoughts on what would make for a helpful work space is an example of this or if they are having trouble adjusting, ask them what they think is getting in the way. There's no specific way you need to have a conversation like this, just approach it will the patience and understanding and make efforts to listen to your child's input. Older children and teens often will appreciate that you considered their thoughts and feel heard, which may lead them to be more inclined to follow your directives. If your child or teen does not want to engage in the conversation, just know that your attempt will communicate your support for them.
4. Be patient and understanding with yourself too! You are also adjusting to a new routine, and it just takes time to settle in, so channel some of the patience and understanding you are striving to show your kids to yourself as well.
I wish you all an inspiring new school year!